Regrets...

Have you done something that make you regret?

For me, now I am living with regrets that I have not done something...

Hardworking Parents

Still could not find a time to change my blogskin, shall make do with a change of color.

For the past weeks, I have been really worried about Kiern. He is going to primary 1 next year and it been stressing ME! Yes Me! If you starts to think that by stressing myself up, i am also stressing Kiern then you are WRONG!

I am not a kiasu kind of mum. Kiern had never attended any enrichment class for his first 5 years of his life. He just attend as per usual kids do, 3 years old he was in a half day child care then he proceed to PCF nursery and first half of K1. I guess the only kiasu thing I do for him is to change him from PCF to a private kindergarten. That's all. I am stressing because when I see how most of his age kids are doing much more than him or able to do much more better than him then I start to wonder, is it because I am too relax in terms of parenting? The fact is no matter how I am not kiasu, society has change! We are no longer at the era whereby our parents just make sure we go to school when we reach 4 years old then we just proceed as it is till we graduate. At that time parents are not so kiasu because most of them simply are not kiasu and the society is not so competitive. Now in this 21st century where all living standard and expenses are going up, parents are getting more and more kiasu. So imagine if you were in my shoes where you are still lay back but other parents are putting their kids in enrichment class even when their kids are only 3 months old. When your kid starts schooling then he/she will realize everyone is ahead of him/her then in turns he/she will not do well in school and how will the poor kid feels? Is the kid lazy? Is the kid stupid? The answer is NO, its just that others are doing better than that poor kid.

Just the other day, I was telling laoye, nowadays parents need to be hardworking, no longer is the kids that need to be hardworking. Last time, our parents could just tell us, "you must study, you must be hardworking." Now? We parents cant just say that to our kids, we must teach the kids since young, some do flashcard, some cultivate their kids reading since young, some have to sit down with their kids and check their homework. If you fail to do so, the consequences you shall bear. So the conclusion is... if you want your child to perform well in school, you have to be hardworking and discipline to teach your child daily. I was a lazy mum who will watch tv when i finished my work, I was a laid back mother who dun bother much about my boys education but now I have to change. To change for my boys? Or to change for the society? Frankly, I do not know. At least I want to change to starts teaching my boys everyday so that they wont feel stress or lose out when they go to primary 1.

P/S: A light note to this post.

"Me: *sigh* nowadays parent have to be hardworking, no longer is children need to be hardworking

Laoye: what's make you think so?

Me: Last time, when a kid do well, we say he/she very hardworking. now if a kid do not do well is because the parent not hardworking enough. Nowadays parents need to spend so much time and money to guide their children. If they dun do so then their child also wont perform well.

laoye: true true

Me: so you shall be a hardworking father to work as much as you can so that you can earn lots of money and i shall be the hardworking mother to teach your sons.

laoye: you only thinks of my money right?!

Me: Yes! I want my miu miu or chanel 2.55 bag *big grin*"